"Sure, get off the bus at MY house!"

This is a line I once uttered to my friend Lauren when our bus driver forgot her bus stop (AGAIN!) and I decided she could make it to gymnastics if she got off at my house and my mom dropped her at her house. This was before cell phones. And, obviously, before we were 16. In fact, I think we were 13.

When I was 14, Brittany and I were both on the soccer teams, and even though she was on varsity and I wasn’t, we would always, always sit on the bus together.

When I was 16, and Kelly was 15, she asked if she could back my car up in my driveway. I said, “Sure!” She ran over a solar light. Whoops.

Every few years, my girlfriends and I try to convene somewhere and hang out. Lately, it’s been in my neck of the woods — whether those woods be Boston or LA! Lauren (see below) is already here, and my other ladies Kelly and Brittany get here tonight. Our other girls, Alex and Erin, will be SORELY missed.

Here are some photographs from our previous escapades — I am so excited and so blessed to be having friends who I’ve known and loved for over a DECADE coming to visit me.

I don’t know what is happening in this photo.

But this is what happened next.


The last time these girls came to see me, I lived in Boston. We went out to dinner, and I forgot my pen in the restaurant. The waiter (who dealt with our loud and ridiculous behavior) ran after us, saying, “Excuse me, ma’am, I think you left your pen.” A minute later, he came out again, with Britty’s purse, and said, “Excuse me, ma’am, I think you left your purse.” We. are. a. mess.

I cannot wait for all three of you to be here, all together, again. I love you oodles. 🙂

In the "F" section of fiction…

Apparently, according to a quick search this morning, I have never fully explained to you my love of the book barn. Now, I did mention it a while back as my favorite place to buy books, and that it is. But it is so much more than a place to buy books, and I will try to explain it here, although I know I will not do it justice.

When I was a kid, my mom used to pile me, my sister, and my brother, into our Volvo station wagon, many bags, coolers, and chairs in tow, ready for a full day at the beach. Every day of the summer, we drove 20 minutes (even though we lived about 5 minutes from the beach) to Rocky Neck. It’s one of the best beaches, because it is long, smooth, and on a sandbar. And has an area for crabbing (which we did with chicken legs, catching crabs and putting them back, never big enough to bring home.) The sandbar always allowed us to swim without our mother having to worry much about us: the water was usually to our knees, unless it was high tide, and then the water was to our chests, maybe, but only if you swam out far enough.

Anyways, the other good thing about Rocky Neck is that it is a three minute drive to the Book Barn. Which is just what is sounds like. When we were little, the Book Barn was a large barn, full of books, with one building in the back full of paperbacks. Paperbacks are a dollar. We’d go every few weeks, getting beach reads to bring to the beach. I picked up a book there about a girl who moves to Maine and meets a girl that turns into a seal. I don’t know what it’s called, but I remember reading it and having it be a magical experience. Many other good reads have come from there, and my shelves at home in Michigan are lined with books I picked up for a dollar, including a variety of John Steinbeck books from the years my dad and I decided we were going to read through them all (we’re still working on that one.) I’ve grabbed Barbara Kingslover, Ayn Rand, Charles Dickens, and a few J.K. Rowling books over the years, keeping them on shelves at home, waiting for a rainy day, or a long beach trip.

When we moved to Michigan at the end of seventh grade, we went back for a few years in the summers, taking two weeks to spend in Niantic, walking distance from Rocky Neck. We’d take trips to the Book Barn, stocking up on dollar books to bring back to Michigan and our pool, when we were landlocked for the summer months.

As we grew up, so did the Book Barn. The Barn is still full, as is the Annex (where I encountered my first Steinbeck.) Added to the arrangement was the Haunted Bookshop, the Last Page building, Ellis Island (where you can sell your books to the Book Barn’s lovely personnel), and Hades. Every time we go, I find a new section to love, and see more and more books, and thankfully, more and more patrons. The lovely people at the Book Barn have opened a second location downtown, and a third “midtown” spot.

The Book Barn’s not just books, either. There are always pets to play with, a few cats and a few dogs, wandering the premises, rubbing against your legs in the fiction section. There is always coffee, always a snack, and always water waiting for you in the main building, if your extended stay happens to go longer than you anticipated. In recent years, there are bags for carrying your books spread around the buildings, and seemingly more places to sit, if you need to read a little before you decide on a book. The books are still organized just as well as they always have been. Always alphabetically, always classics available, usually a copy of a new book I wanted to read but didn’t want to spend the money on nestled between a handful of books I’ve never heard of or between a few books dated “1930.” And, the best thing? Always, always music in each nook and cranny of the place. The Annex is blasting summer tunes (from Grateful Dead to 80s power ballads) whereas in the history basement of the barn, Sarah McLaughlin’s voice is on repeat. Never a quiet moment, always the right volume, always the right song, the right voice, the right moment.

I blame the Book Barn for two things: my undeniable tendency to get food and dirt in between books’ pages, and my stinginess for buying books. I can’t remember I bought a book new, or at full price (and if I did, I probably had a gift certificate.) I usually go to the library, but I am a lousy library patron, as I often forget to renew books (and forget to return them.) But I can’t justify spending $12 or $15 on a book, when I could get 15 books at the book barn for that same price! I also can’t help spilling Jax on the pages, knowing the book was a dollar, and knowing that when I bought the book it was already loved, and if we’re being honest, a little damp, as it sat in a building open to the elements. I carry this mentality to many books, getting sand in the pages, fig newton stains, soda, water, and sometimes coffee on books. Of course, I am careful when I borrow from friends, but it is really hard for me to not end up having a book’s cover come off, or having the binding either break or be stained when I return it.

And so, when I was home in CT in June, my family made time for the Book Barn. Getting to the Book Barn and to the beach is on the “to do” list every time we go home for pleasure, as is “visit family” and “eat a whole crap load of food.” We spent a mere hour and a half at the book barn, and I loved every moment of it. I spent time exploring the basement of the Book Barn, where the history and political books lie, but couldn’t justify buying too many, as some were $4, which is just a little over my price range, personally.

This visit, as I was struggling to minimize my pile in the “F” section of fiction, I helped my dad find a few books that were written in: hard cover books that say the owner’s name in cursive on the front flap, proudly listing a date. We found one from the 1890’s, which my dad kept close, as it was one of the oldest in his collection. (Granted, he started this collection of personalized books only a few weeks ago, but still.)

Half way through my wandering, I realized that since my parents had driven in from MI, I could send books home with them, and get them when I arrived in Chicago in July. Thank you, Southwest, for feeding my book addiction (bags fly free — even bags full of books!) So I walked out with seven or eight books, spending about $16 (I splurged for a few $4 books in the end.)

The Book Barn is a magical place. As I was busy entranced in books, I did not take any pictures; luckily, Jeffrey was on hand, documenting the beauty with photographs that live up to the Book Barn’s majesty.

Got a pack of cards, Obama on audio tape, and my fave boy…

Guys: I leave today on vacay to a cruise. In the Bahamas. With Jeff. and his family. I am so excited. I am excited to have a vacation that is a real vacation: not being home (although I love being home), not visiting people who I miss (and miss me too), not driving, not in charge. I cannot remember the last time I went on vacation to somewhere that wasn’t to visit someone. I think it might have been when I was in high school and my family and I went to San Francisco.

We went to the Galapagos, too, but that was with my dad’s work. Going to San Francisco was the last time that my vacation was about seeing something new, being with people you love, and not, you know, cleaning up the kitchen when we were done.

In college, every break was to home, to Jeff, to babysit. The past two years, I’ve been on a cross-country road trip, I’ve been to Michigan countless times, Chicago, New York, Washington state, China, San Francisco. Every vacation I take is amazing: but all tiring. All work. This one, this is about relaxation. This is about having a good time. This is about the sun, the sky, the water, rest. I will sleep. I will read. I will listen to Obama. I will love Jeff. I will shop, I will visit new countries. I will enjoy Jeff’s family. I will come back tired. I will be rejuvenated. I will be ready for: Pittsburgh, Connecticut, and Chicago. I will be ready for weddings, for red eyes, for family, for babies and for loving.

What are all of you doing for vacations this year? Are you going abroad? Staying home? Visiting friends? Perhaps, visiting me? Picking strawberries on a remote farm in Vermont? Do tell!

Home to Camp Waterloo.

Today I arrived at the airport clad in my Earth boots, a sweater, jacket, and a hat. I was ready to take Michigan on. It was 7:00 am, and my flight was at 5:30 pm. I was attempting to get on an earlier flight. I knew there were a few throughout the day, and I headed to standby for a flight at 8:55 am. Luckily for me, because I got to the airport so early (Jeff had a flight at 7 am) I was the first person on the standby list, and made it on the flight at 8:55 which meant I was home to MI by 4:40. Now I am sitting at home, in front of the heat shield, listening to football and uploading my “2009” photo album to facebook. Jeff is saftely back in NH, and I am snuggled up with a blanket and a heater.

There is snow on the ground here, Bananagrams on the table, and neverending tea and red wine. Here’s to the beginning of a good break. I will get to see lots of friends I have not seen in a while, and some friends that I have seen lately, all who I miss more and and see less and less. Nikki and Jon arrive home Wednesday, and then the party will pick up. For now I will enjoy being home in my living room, listening to football and Star snoring, and be happy.

Georgia, you know that you've been on my mind…

Well, not really. Not Georgia. Michigan. But Michigan is not as sexy as Georgia.

Anyways, guess what folks? I get to go back to MI on Friday night! Although I arrive on Saturday very early in the morning, and am forcing my poor parents to come get me early in the AM. What will follow is four days of wonder.

Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday, I will do the following, in no particular order:

  • Drink delicious alcoholic beverages, probably from the pool
  • Lay in the pool for hours, maybe reading, maybe sleeping.
  • Work on my tan (which is ridiculous, as I live in Southern Cali.)
  • See myriads of friends: K. Sue, Jeff, L, E, V, and maybe some unexpected ones on the way…
  • Eat inordinate amounts of food that surely a lady would NEVER be caught doing.
  • Cook something in my giant kitchen and relish in the fact that we have a dishwasher
  • Drink coffee all day until I have heart burn, and then continue to drink it with farm milk
  • Eat some greens that are laying around in the fridge’s bottom drawer
  • Sleep in — but not too late, because there is much to do! — with probably a cat and a dog.
  • Check my email once a day, maybe, on account of the slow Internet connection
  • Listen to some James and some Grateful Dead whilst frolicking in the yard with another dog.
  • Watch my brother play his guitar and advocate for his swift release to the woods
  • Argue with my parents in the yard about something to the point that the neighbors may or may not but DEFINITELY will call the police. (Our neighbors, clearly, are the crazy ones)
  • Play Scrabble and Pinochle
  • Eat pizza. With wine.

And it will all be wonderful.

family

This is my fam. That is my backyard. Enough said.