Missed Connections \\ Missed Opportunities

Tonight, I listened to a live stream from Ami Dar, who is the founder of Idealist. It was a really inspiring lecture that resonates with me personally, and really excites me for the future. Let me tell you why.

When I first moved to LA, I really wanted to volunteer somewhere locally. When I lived in Michigan, I worked for the Parks and Recreation department teaching three year olds different sports, and refereeing soccer. I love working with kids, and I love sports, and I love teaching. So I thought that I should find something that combined all of these things out in California so I could meet people in my community.

But when I started Googling “youth soccer programs Los Angeles” I had a really hard time getting ahold of someone…I called Rec centers, I emailed them, I looked at leagues and schools, desperately searching for a volunteer opportunity that could fit into my schedule.

Enter Pasadena Yes. Almost five years ago, on March 18, 2009, I emailed Jeff Brown about his program, Pasadena Yes, asking if he needed volunteers for his organization.

He emailed me back the next day, telling me to come to the school on April 4 to help out with the soccer program. I knew the kids would be 4 to 9. And I knew not much else. So on April 4, I showed up, and I met Jeff and Gabriel and other coaches in the program.

Five years later, I am still coaching (and now running) the soccer program at Pasadena Yes. I had Jeff (my Jeff) redesign the website for the organization. I have him come occasionally and take photos. I roped Rebecca into coaching for a few seasons, and Liz, and since 2012 I have somehow been lucky enough to have Brian as my co-coach. I’ve coached soccer, and basketball, and volleyball. I’ve made Ryan come for a Saturday and make himself available in the future, and had Jen and Corelyn and countless other people come to the final game of the season and cheer on my kids.

I love coaching soccer, I love making a difference, and I love my Saturday mornings outside under the sun. And I know that if I hadn’t been brave enough (which really isn’t all that brave) to email a stranger and show up at a random gym on a Saturday morning, I would not be 15 seasons in to a program that has changed my life.

So how does this have to do with Idealist? Well, if I was a little shyer, I would never have just emailed someone randomly and signed myself up for coaching alone. But, lucky for me, I am pretty outgoing. Idealist’s new plan to connect people to each other locally and world wide reminds me of the questions I normally get when people ask how I got involved: how, why, this is volunteer?!” 

You can get overwhelmed online with information; I know because I once looked into opening a community garden in my neighborhood and quickly got too overwhelmed figuring out what permits I’d need, etc. But it would have been really nice if I had a friend to split that work with. Enter Idealist. This new network of Connectors can start community gardens, and women’s groups, and soccer programs, and educate programs, and will help find experts who are looking to teach, for novices looking to learn, and for those in between who have a few hours to spare helping a cause they care deeply about.

Idealist can explain it better than I can, so I’ll lead you to their site for more information on what this network will mean. But I encourage you to join in, to take part in making our world a better place – whatever that may mean for you.

24 Things I want for my birthday.

Since I am turning 24, I would like you to do me 24 favors. I think you can do them all, and I think it might not be that hard, AND I think you’ll come off on the other side that much smarter. Take your time — the summer if need be — but try to do some of these, for me, cause it’s my birthday.

1. Register to vote if you’re not registered already.

2. Take time to review the candidates in your next election, which is coming this August. Primaries are happening now, and yours could be soon, or have already happened!!

Massachusetts – September 14, 2010
Connecticut – August 10, 2010
California – Yesterday, read about candidates here.
Michigan – August 3, 2010

Calendar of all the dates for primaries, in case you don’t live in the four I’ve lived in…

3. Read this article, and this article, about the Gulf Oil Spill. Because it’s not over, and we need to continually be aware that the Oil Spill was not a natural disaster — and it’s not over, yet.

4. Tell me how long you read the newspaper or news online a day. Then double it. 15 minutes? Try 30. Check the New York Times, the LA Times, the Boston Globe, the Detroit Free Press, CNN, MSNBC, Fox (yes, because you should know how they are skewing things, lately), ABC News, BBC News, Al Jazeera, etc. Read about politics, world events, local events, sports. Just be aware.

5. Send me your favorite Youtube video. Here’s mine.

6. Find a local farmer’s market. Buy your produce from there. Not only will it taste delicious, it’ll also help support your local economy, and be better for you. AND will lower your carbon imprint.

7. Speaking of local produce, try, just ONCE a month (and maybe gradually change your thinking to always), to buy your meat organic, and free range. It’s better for the animal, for you, and for the world. (You can do this with eggs, too.)

8. READ THIS.

9. Stop eating high fructose corn syrup. (Alternatively titled: eat more REAL food.)

10. Read Michael Pollan’s “Food Rules.” Corelyn has a copy, if you need to borrow. Then, pick 10 rules to start with, and follow them.

11. Send me 5 books that you think I should read RIGHT NOW because holy crap, she’d love this.

12. Tell me what you want to know about — do you want me to write more about my family, friends? Do you want me to write more? Have more photos? Cook something fancy you’ve been meaning to try but aren’t sure how to do? Post more recipes? Let me know!

13. Tell me an issue you care about: I’ll give you a documentary to watch. Watch it.

14. Tell me how you feel about gay marriage: if you’re for it, help me fight for rights. Sign up for a list serve, read about it online, figure out if you can donate time or money to the cause, simply know what is going on. If you’re against it, explain to me why, so I can understand you, and learn more about this controversial subject.

15. Sign up to be a bone marrow donor or a blood donor. Or both (like I am!) Last year’s birthday present to myself was to become a bone marrow donor — and I’ve never felt better. Tell your friends, and have them sign up, too!

16. Recycle. Reuse. Reduce. I know some of you find recycling hard: but if God, or whoever, made this planet for us, don’t you think we should keep it nice? And, if the planet was made for all of us, don’t you think it’d be nice if we kept it nice for others? How would you feel if you a) gave someone a really nice gift and they kept it dirty, or b) knew that your friends didn’t clean their kids rooms, even if their kids couldn’t do it for themselves because they were infants?

17. Make me a playlist. Send it to me in an email (if you think I have/can get most of the songs) or by CD, or by MP3 email.

18. Tell me what you care about. Shoot me a link to your blog, or someone’s blog YOU follow because you care about what you write, or something you’ve written. Let me help you with your causes, as you help me with mine.

19. Volunteer. For one hour a month, or a week. Or one hour every four months. Just get out and do something: coach a team, tutor a kid, help plant a garden, get out politic ideas, clean up your neighborhood, walk a dog, grocery shop for the elderly, listen to someone’s story. There are thousands of organizations that will help you volunteer near and far.

20. Get up, and go! Walk, run, jog, cycle, swim. Do yoga, hikes, climbs,  head stands, whatever. I want you to be healthy, because quite frankly, I really like you. And I want you to be around for a while. Selfish me.

21. On that note — don’t diet. Moderate. Dieting doesn’t do the body good, and doesn’t do your stress levels or mental state good, either. Figure out what moderation works for you. Refer to number 20.

22. Take my mantra to heart: Today’s the day. When I was 15, I cut that phrase out of a magazine, where it was part of an ad (I think for Wheat Thins or something.) I took it to heart: today’s the day. Today’s the day to make it happen. Today’s the day I finally stick up for myself. Today’s the day that I love myself, my life, and everything around me. Today’s the day I finally start working out. Today’s the day I smile. Whatever. But remember: Today’s the day.

23. Take some pictures of your life. Send them to me. Email, blog posts, whatever. Sometimes you guys are so damn quiet it scares me. I want to know what’s going on with you, and what makes you tick, smile, laugh, and cry.

24. Send me a favor to do for you. As I explained to Roman, one of my soccer players:

“Roman, can you do me a favor and get me that ball?”

“WHAT?” Blank stare.

“Do you know what a favor is?”

“Umm, no.”

“OK. A favor is something you do for someone because they need you to do it to help them, or help yourself. And then, if you do a favor for them, they might do one for you later.”

“Ohhh, ok. I’ll get you that ball.” And, later, I let him play goalie…